Q.
someone asked me out on a first date why I have not ever married. I have had personal issues which have stood in the way. that is a large part of the reason why. I have never had anyone ask me that. but when she did I was honest and I told her. the truth is I have had problems and still do. but I am functional, I am just a bit behind socially for my age. but people like myself need someone too. what am I supposed to do ? very discouraged and about to give up.
A.
OK first of all, never tell someone that you have problems and are behind socially on a first date, This will only make sure you never have a second date!. Secondly, if you believe those things about yourself and in fact it is true. Then you can catch up and leave that to your past.
The correct answer in this situation is, The timing has never been good and ultimately, I have not found the right girl yet. Both of the answers would still be honest. The truth is for you timing has not been right for you, because you still need to get your act together. By saying that you have not met the right girl yet will give hope to your date that maybe she could be the one to land you when no one else has yet.
Lastly, I want to let you know that it is ok to have some problems. Most people do and just because they don’t come out and tell the world does not mean that they are free from any issues. Learn to be more discrete and mostly learn to focus on the positives about yourself. It is vital that you see the good and believe the good about you! Ultimately we attract what we put off and if you put off insecurity and disappointment in yourself then that is what you will attract.
Big Lesson, speak positively about yourself and don’t let shame rule your life.
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